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In the land of life, surviving emotional trauma and betrayal by people we thought loved us isn't a novelty. Somehow we survive it all and if we are patient and mindful, we can resolve the pain, learn about ourselves and others and be open to love again. Too often though, I see men slamming "women" and women slamming "men" with labels. All in an effort to never get hurt again. Sadly, that doesn't work because we are only hurting ourselves no matter how strong the denial. M

Which is worse: Abortion or Child abandonment/abuse/neglect? This is probably the most important question for those who call themselves "pro-life" advocates. Being pro-life means more than just being against abortion. It's about believing that every human life matters and deserves respect, whether someone is still in the womb, a newborn baby, an older person, or someone with a disability. People who are pro-life usually support government assistance programs, medical care, an

Being a good man means practicing steady ethical conduct, showing compassion, and working toward self-improvement. Real goodness isn't determined by recognition or authority, but by your treatment of others—particularly those unable to return your kindness. A good man exhibits bravery, modesty, and dedication to serving others while preserving his own integrity. Growing up as a teenage girl in the 1980s meant accepting that 'boys will be boys' excused virtually any misbehavio

This argument comes around so often when it comes to women who are sexually assaulted, raped, or attacked. What did she think would happen... because of what she was wearing because of where she was walking because she was intoxicated because she didn't say NO forcefully enough because she was too aggressive when she turned him down because she was out with male friend(s) I remember the first time I was almost sexually assaulted. I was 13 years old. My younger broth

What No One Is Talking About - Male Accountability People loudly voice outrage over abortion as an unethical and illegal act, yet remain conspicuously silent when it comes to demanding repercussions for child abusers, sexual predators, and fathers who abandon their families. But, why should we expect culpability for today's predators when our nation is led by yesterday's ruthless power-hungry elites? How can we demand responsibility from future wrongdoers when today's leader

I remember my grandfather saying, "If you spend 10 minutes trying to understand the opposite sex, you've wasted 10 minutes you'll never get back." Just because women will never understand men, and men will never understand women, doesn't mean it should translate into a battle of the sexes. But it seems women seeking humanity and individuality have done just that. A lot of today's 'men' pine for old-fashioned ways, a time they believe women and men were much happier, and th

TOXIC FEMININITY Toxic femininity is when society puts pressure on women to act in certain ways that fit old-fashioned ideas about what being feminine means. These expectations force women to be passive, gentle, and to put others' needs before their own just so they can be accepted and valued in a world that's mostly controlled by men. In the end, toxic femininity keeps women trapped in a cycle where they can't be independent or take care of their own emotional health. Both t

A Father's Love A father's love is meant to be unconditional, safeguarding, nurturing, and transformative, embodying both human compassion and divine love. For a daughter, her dad sets the bar: not only giving her love, guidance, and support, but also treating her mother with respect and compassion. My grandfathers were both incredible men. I’m not saying they were flawless, and I’m pretty sure they had their wild days, but that doesn’t change the fact that they were great

Ride or Die -tell us to "choose better men" but categorically blast us for having standards they deem "superficial/gold-digging" (we see the priorities you place on how a woman LOOKS); -expect submission without understanding that they can't give JUST the bare minimum in return; -call out women for being "masculine" (aka not willing to be treated like doormats) without taking a look at themselves to see that women are simply refusing to be LESS so they can feel like they are

The idea of a woman submitting to a man is something that often causes arguments and can be misunderstood in today’s world. Many people think it means being less important or losing independence. But in a healthy, loving relationship, submission can mean being willing to compromise, putting the relationship first, and working together with your partner. It’s not about losing who you are, but creating a situation where both people feel appreciated and build common goals. In a

In The Shawshank Redemption (1994), Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins) expresses to Ellis "Red" Redding (Morgan Freeman) a sentiment that captures the essence of the film's theme: the importance of choosing a life filled with purpose and activity over one of passive resignation. I can't count the number of times I've evaluated my life and decided change was in order. Sometimes it was a change in me; other times, it was my situation. The reasons varied as much as the alterations. Al

October 30, 1999 For as long as I can recall, my siblings and I have been told we should write a book about our lives and our family dynamic. We swear we are going to, but life is for living, so we continue to follow our happiness instead. It took me much longer, than my sisters, to understand that pursuing my own happiness isn't selfish; it's necessary. (I hope one day my brother will understand that too and figure out how to stop running from the past to finding happines

July 16, 2026 All I live for is laughter, love and peace. I've never cared a bit for what money can buy because not one of those three things are on a store shelf. Today my world was rocked with a test result showing cancerous cells. Honestly, all things being equal, I should have seen something coming. It seems like the minute the shitstorm settles, something throws off the balance again. I won't say I'm not angry, scared and sad but I am doing my best to approach the si

Self-knowledge is the understanding of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires. It is like looking in a mirror and seeing not just your physical appearance but also your thoughts and emotions. When you have self-knowledge, you can recognize your strengths and weaknesses, which helps you make better decisions in life. This understanding can lead to greater confidence and a sense of direction, as you become more aware of what you truly want and need in life. Overall

If I heard it once, I heard it a million times - you're too picky when it comes to men. It's not what you think though -I never created a "perfect man" roster in my head basing height, weight, income, status or anything superficial. What I had was an expectation of how I wanted to be treated and I'm here to tell you, there is absolutely no such thing as being too picky about that. Growing up, mixed messages were like breathing air. I'd say Gloria's monologue (Barbie / 2023

Whether or not other people like you, doesn't matter at all if you don't like yourself. It sounds basic but think about times you've been alone.. did you enjoy it; get overwhelmed, decide you needed to be out socializing? It might be more than your social butterfly personality pushing you to be in constant company. In order to fully discover the self, you have to quiet your mind, body and soul. Not just a 30 minute meditation but consistently over a period of time; and on

Respect is something that everyone wants, but it’s not always easy to earn. To command respect, a person needs to show confidence in themselves and their abilities. This means being assertive without being rude. It’s also important to treat others with kindness and fairness because when you show respect to others, they are more likely to return it. Finally, being consistent in your actions and words builds trust, which is a key part of earning respect from those around you. P

Women have a strength in them that is more powerful than the strongest of men. This is what threatens the weakest of men and, historically, leads to subjugation and oppression of women. But wait... before my opinions are hijacked and turned into something they're not ... Neither man nor woman holds a place of sole importance. Without women, there can be no children born; and without men, there can be no women impregnated. That's the basic part, but in between all that "br

Human beings are naturally inclined to connect with others, but seeking meaningful relationships—whether with friends, family, or romantic partners—can often lead to conflict. Relationships can be stressful and unpredictable, sometimes feeling like they demand more from us than we can give. The difficulties we encounter in our interactions often point to a more significant issue: how we relate to ourselves. To build genuine and lasting connections, we should focus less on fin

I drew up our divorce papers, we negotiated then signed off on them. Three months to the day from his final betrayal of me, the Magistrate determined we didn't even need a final hearing if we agreed that day since the papers were so thorough and equitable. I was relieved because the thought of coming back, for a final hearing, as I stood next to him doing everything I could not to cry, was unbearable. I had no interest in dating at that point. Our son was in his junior year