Shadow Work Journaling
To make your own journal, consider keeping track of:
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Exaggerated responses to people or things
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Emotional outbursts that are too strong for the situation
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Any time you feel uncomfortable or upset at strangers or people you barely know
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Addictive behaviors
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Unexplained feelings, such as depression, anxiety, sadness, or anger
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Lingering moods that don’t match how you want to feel
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Things you do or say that hurt other people
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Repetitive arguments or conflicts
Recommended:
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Observe and write down your inner dialogue during an emotion or action.
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Jot down the feelings that go with your thoughts.
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Note any bodily sensations.
Benefits of shadow work may include:
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Fewer feelings of blame and shame
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Learning why you have big emotional reactions
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Revealing and healing trauma
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Shedding light on your strengths and weaknesses
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Learning healthy coping skills and how to set boundaries
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Improving your personal or professional relationships
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Tapping into creativity
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Stopping negative self-talk
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Less hurt to yourself or other people
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Boost your well-being
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Improve your people skills
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Lessen how often you go to the doctor
Researchers have found that exploring how your past connects with your present may help
with mental health conditions such as:
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Depression and anxiety
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Emotional issues that lead to physical symptoms
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Eating disorders
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Complicated grief
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Personality disorders
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Substance use disorders
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Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Prompts
Explore Your Personal Shadow
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What people or situations cause me to have strong positive or negative reactions?
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When did I start to feel this way?
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What behaviors do I keep repeating, even though I don’t want to?
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Is there a part of myself I’m ashamed to embrace or show others?
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What things in my life (job, partner, friends, personality) make me feel uneasy? Why?
Strong Reactions to Someone
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What is it about that person (or social media post) that really bothers me?
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Are they doing or saying something that I wish I could do?
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Is it possible that I’m jealous? If so, of what?
Romantic Relationship(s)
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Am I afraid to reveal certain parts of myself? If so, what are those traits?
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Am I embarrassed or ashamed of something in my past? If so, what?
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Do I feel safe to share my shadow with my partner?
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Is there something around sex, money, or power that I struggle with?
Other
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Is there a specific conflict I have repeatedly?
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Is there trauma from my childhood that I need to reveal and heal from?
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What situations make me feel anxious?
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Do I ever have a strong emotional reaction I can’t explain?
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Do I ever feel scared, ashamed, or lonely but don’t know why?
Childhood
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What traits of mine did I learn were “good” or “bad”?
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What is allowed or forbidden in my family, culture, or religion?
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Did I hide certain parts of myself growing up?
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Did I have creative interests as a child that I forgot about?
